Crucial Conversations Prt 1

Part of alignment and bringing greater order in life and fueling wellbeing has to do with confrontation and healthy conversations......

Most people try to avoid confrontation...

or they always seem to be confrontational and don't know how to have a healthy conversation.

The HOW we do something matters.....


What does it mean to “Have a Crucial Conversation”?


1. Identifying the precise situation that's causing you tension, and understanding what's happening.

Before we can talk about how to change a situation, we need to know why the situation is there.

2. Being clear on your needs.

What, ultimately, do you want to happen? (Notice that this isn't about what you don't want.)

3. Preparing or improving your communication skills.

Asking for exactly what you need and want will mean being assertive. It means:

  • expressing your feelings, thoughts, and desires clearly and unambiguously — with compassion, thoughtfulness, and honesty;
  • managing your emotions so that...
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Do Challenging things Prt 2


 A new way to get to the Top

When your in pursuit of a goal or dream many have said, "it's lonely at the top"......But I don't believe that to be true if you live and build your life and business the right way!

"It's not good for man to be alone" the good Lord said...and this was not in reference only to marriage...but in all things.

So many people are caught in a "dog eat dog world" where people are ruthless in seeking their own ambitions to climb their ladder of success.  

This is a broken system that needs to be forsaken.

There is a better way!

Brotherly/ friendly competition is good and how we all can challenge each other to perform and live at the top of our "game", but how we really win and therefore all win is through collaboration and in serving each other.

We find a fullness in life when we are giving our lives away in service to others and to a cause that is greater than ourselves.  To be self serving alone is destructive, isolating, and does lead to being...

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Do challenging things! Prt 1


All growth is an uphill journey! You must be intentional and you must stay "hungry"

When we have certain successes or have reached a certain level of growth or achievement or made any measure of progress, it's easy to settle down and become content and camp out around how far we've come and fail to see that there is more to go!

Yes, we need to celebrate every win and learn to enjoy the journey, but in the same breadth we need to set our eyes to the higher places and Keep Climbing!

Yes, take a breath, look back, and enjoy how far you have come but do not stay there...

In life, relationships, personal growth, business, ministry...etc mediocrity and comfortability is the enemy to your potential, growth, and ultimate joy.

We have to hold to the things that got us to where we are if were to keep growing.

Keep embracing your challenge where you are!

Read Prt 2...coming soon

If you want to get a mountain top view of your personal and professional life and strategically plan your year and...

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The Law of Self Awareness: you must know yourself to grow yourself

 Growing up, my life was pretty turbulent and marked by fear, people pleasing, and a lot of unpleasant transitions….these things kept me from dreaming, having goals, being secure with myself, being honest with others and therefore not fully honest with myself.

I would lie so much i believed my own lies…kinda of funny... but pretty sad.  Now, with such insecurity you may think that would make someone pretty self aware or too self aware, but the fears and self protecting mechanisms  in my life actually kept me pretty detached from the type of self awareness that would lead to transformation and growth…. the safety of my lies kept me from being rejected, at least for a time until i was either trapped or exposed, and it was that way for many years in my life.

I was gifted and charismatic but that didn't mean i was growing as a person, and if anything i just grew more sophisticated in people pleasing, manipulation, and self deception. And as some of...

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The law of Intentionality & 4 Gaps that stop your Personal Growth

When it comes to growing as a person we need to talk about  the Law of Intentionality - which says, “growth doesn't just happen by itself or by accident.”


This law is so all encompassing in my mind  and so attractive in that points to and empowers us in making transformative decisions that can shift our life and the lives of those around us.  It reminds me of the Lord who says, life and death is before you, so chose life….to be intentional speaks to our power of choice. To have the ability to chose strengthens us or should encourage us to chose well and wisely As to make the most of our lives,  and this applies to every area of life and faith and development.

To chose life and whats right and good and true, Infuses our lives with joy, it points to opportunity and promise and potential and invites us into the hopeful future just beyond the next right decision.


The truth is though, we are all prone to wanna Coast and follow the path...

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